Honestly, I don’t think Independence Day means anything to the women in India, besides a public holiday. I could be wrong, because I do not have the right to judge and answer for the million plus women in our country. But as an Indian woman, I can speak for myself.
I love India, and the ‘public holiday’ does generate a bubbling in my heart. Over the recent years, I have come to truly love my country with all its corruption, disorganization, screwed up mentality and highly judgmental current position. At first, I did not know how I began to love a place which visually displays garbage at every corner of the road in any part of the country. Few instances came to my mind that played an important role in how I feel today.
I’m a single, unmarried mother. When my daughter was 5 months old, I went to apply for her passport and was so worried about how I would handle the part on the application where it asked for her father’s name, because he was not around, voluntarily.
When I addressed my concern to the concerned official who asked me why I left that space blank, he smiled at me and said. “Beti, Bharat mahaan hain. Your country will take care of you.” Apparently, there was an annexure that was available for cases like mine and all I had to do was get the affidavit typed. I was in disbelief. I couldn’t believe, a country like India had a provision like this?
Another thing that constantly grips me are the traffic cops here in Goa. It was during the hot humid summer that I was taking a certain route for a month, and every day I would see this particular cop, sweating, like sweating and directing traffic. He never sat. I am not saying he is not a corrupt cop or that he is one. At that point, it didn’t matter. What I saw was that he had a choice, to laze it out, but he didn’t. This opened my eyes to observe other cops and a very heavy revelation hit me.
We see what we WANT to see!
There is no country in the world which is 100% safe. There is no perfect country that focuses just on the woman and her needs. And India is not a country that brings a woman down. Yes, we are backward in many ways concerning laws and other things for women, but we are a country that focuses on the woman bringing up her child.
Men as children, are brought up by women, and the men need to be taught from an early age to respect a woman and not view her only as someone to be controlled. Unfortunately, a man grows up in a household where he is shown more respect than his sister. He watches as his mother makes sacrifices daily putting herself down and beneath for the ‘sake’ of her family, and he doesn’t think that he should correct that situation. He thinks that when I grow up and am the man of my house, my wife will serve me just the way my mother serves.
The ‘conservative’ Indian woman does not talk to her son and tell him as early as she can that he does not need to watch pornography, because it will make him view women not for who she is.
Our Indian women don’t stand up and become what we have to become. The country and it’s laws already support us. We have to stand up and be ourselves with no fear and rule with equality alongside our male counterparts. The future of this country, as of now is in the hands of us Indian women. Either we bring each other down or we build each other up.
If we are built, India is built.
I believe Greater things are yet to come and Greater things are still to be done in our cities, in our nation. I wish everyone who reads this, a Happy revolutionary Independence Day.
Jai HIND !
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